I am an honest and considerate man. I try very hard to get along with anyone that I meet. I think it is important in life to always be Truthful, Loyal and Committed. Life is to short to be mad about things that don't matter and I do not dwell on anger. I spend my time looking for the good in any situation. I live my life with the concept of treating others the way that I want to be treated.

What should I say when I meet a woman who is beautiful, kind, caring, and loving? What could I say that would win her heart unconditionally? I hope that I can show her that I would open my life to her and that I am a Truthful, Loyal and Caring man. I hope she will find in my words that more than anything on Earth or in Heaven that the one wish in my life is that she would
enter my heart and allow me to spend every day of my life between now and the end of time putting her first before all else. I want the opportunity to make her happy, and to feel protected and loved more than she has ever have felt.

There are so many things I want to share with her. I hope to share my dreams with her, and that she will share her dreams with me. I want to trust her to listen and to care about what I say, Just as I will listen and trust her. If she will allow it, she will be the most important in my life. In all that I do, in every decision that I make will be with her first in my thoughts and my heart.

I hope for a happy life with her, but I'm not so unrealistic that I think we won't have any problems or difficulties. Those will be the growing times when our commitment will be tested, and we will emerge stronger, wiser and more deeply committed to each other. I know that we need each other to be holy and to become the man and woman God created us to be.

It is necessary to know what is important to me and that I have some "Major" requirements when it comes to selecting my wife. That way it will be easier for me to recognize her when we meet. The "Majors" are basically those few character traits that are absolutely essential to me; traits that I just could not compromise on for any reason. I have seen so much joy and happiness in families, and now that I am older, I realize how important family is. I want our family to be happy too, and I know we cannot do it without each other and God. I do not want her to think that I am some religious crazed man who spends his life preaching the Bible. I believe in the teachings of the Bible and try to live my life by those lessons. There are many
teachings in the Bible that are important, but I have chosen three very important ones and I live my life by them. The Ten Commandments, The Golden Rule, and The Vows of Marriage. I believe when you boil off all the other things and take away the most important, these three sets of rules are the ones that should guide every ones life.

The next "Major" would be unselfishness. I'm not perfect in this area either, but I want both of us to be unselfish. We cannot go through life thinking only of ourselves. We have to be willing to make sacrifices for each other and for our family, and for our children. We have to be willing to love unconditionally. That's not always easy, but unless we are committed to a lifetime of loving unselfishly, our relationship and our happiness will never succeed. Our commitment to each other must come first before anything else, and then our family next. Every action we take must have the temperament of what is best for us first, before pleasure, before material things, before everything else we must be unselfish to the good of our relationship.

We have to be honest too. No relationship can survive without T rust, L oyalty and C ommitment. I know we will spend many hours just talking and learning about each other by sharing our thoughts and our feelings, our hopes, our dreams and our fears. I want us to be very comfortable with each other no matter the topic or situation. Then our relationship will truly achieve T ender L oving C are.

I want so much for her to be the one in my life that I cannot live without. And, I want to be the one she cannot live without. I want to cherish her, and for her to know that she is the most important in my life, I want to be her most intimate friend. I want her tenderness and affection, her kindness and her strength. I want to be there for her when she feels happy and on
top of the world, and I want to be there when her spirit is crushed. I want her to feel protected and secure and to trust me at all times. I want her to feel safe with me and never to be ashamed to talk about her fears and weaknesses. I want to encourage her to stand up for her beliefs and always to do what is right. I want to stand beside her as we go through life together meeting every challenge the world gives us.

The world has cheapened and trivialized our beautiful gift of sexuality. It has ignored its awesome power to unite a man and a woman and to be the source of their greatest blessings, their children. I don't want us ever to lose that sense of awe and reverence for this wonderful gift God designed for true couples. The power of our sexuality is so sacred. It is important to me that you believe that, too. It's a "Major". We don't have to make all the mistakes so many others have made.

I hope and pray that we will be strong enough to combat the lies the world has told us. The things we do and say today can affect the rest of our lives. We do have to think and to care about the way we live today. Our future is important.

Neither of us will ever be perfect, but we can strive to be the best we can be. By doing that now, I know we will have the grace we need to help each other and our children. And, after all, that's really all that matters in the end, don't you agree?

I hope this letter makes a difference to you.

I am waiting for you.